Because It Feels Good Description
Loving your body isn't just about looking good--it's about feeling good.
Debby Herbenick, a research scientist at Indiana University's Center for Sexual Health Promotion, a sexual health educator at the Kinsey Institute, and a respected sex columnist, has written a fun, informative and enlightening resource for women. At the core of her advice is the belief that sex should be fun, satisfying, and intimate—but first and foremost, it should simply feel good.
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- Learn about basic female anatomy and the complicated issue of libido and desire
- Read an overview of sex toys and positions with tips and tricks you're sure to love
- Discover what you should know about anal pleasure and play and how to improve communication, in and out of the bedroom
- Get the knowledge you need to have the sex life you deserve
Read an excerpt from the book:
WHO USES SEX TOYS AND WHY?
Okay, you might be thinking, so women masturbate. But that doesn't mean that they all use vibrators or other sex toys while self-pleasuring—does it? It's true that some women self pleasure with water dripping from their bathtub faucet, by rubbing against a bed, while reading erotic stories, or (unintentionally) through a pleasantly surprising "orgasmic dream" in the middle of the night. However, many women do use sex toys and, as people tend to be curious about what their friends, family members, and neighbors are up to behind closed doors, we asked. In 2008, our research team at the Center for Sexual Health Promotion at Indiana University, Bloomington, surveyed more than 2,000 women and more than 1,000 men between the ages of 18 and 60. We asked the participants about their sexual experiences and their use of sexual enhancement products. We found that nearly half (47 percent) of women had used a vibrator during masturbation and, when we included those who had ever used a vibrator during sex with a partner, the figure jumped to 53 percent. In case you're curious about the men, though they more often had used a vibrator with a partner than during masturbation, nearly half of them had used a vibrator alone or with a partner.
No wonder vibrators have wound up on the pages of everything from women's magazines like Cosmopolitan to the New York Times—we women (and our partners) can't seem to get enough of them. At the very least, we're curious.
Why did people start using vibrators in the first place? Were they lonely, desperate, or otherwise out of luck in their sex lives? Far from it! If anything, women and men tend to say that they started using vibrators for fun, out of curiosity, to make it easier for themselves (or their partner) to have an orgasm, or to otherwise spice up their sex lives. In other words, these are people who, like you and me, are interested in pleasure, enjoyment, and satisfaction.
While some people have stereotypical ideas about what vibrator users are like, our research suggests that women and men who use vibrators, whether alone or with a partner, are similar to those who don't: They are typically healthy, well balanced individuals from all walks of life. They may be diverse in terms of age, race, ethnicity, and sexual orientation, and they may (or may not) be in a relationship or married. It doesn't matter whether they identify as moderate, liberal, or conservative; whether they went to college, earned a graduate degree, or went to work (or started a family) straight out of high school: Vibrator use is common.
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