"First let the more mundane, comfortable aspects of the relationship fall by the wayside. Don't think of him as the guy who takes care of you when you're sad, and helps you with the everyday chores. Let that fall away, and focus strictly on his sexual aspects. What is it about him that really turns you on? Maybe it's watching how aggressive he gets while he's playing basketball or the way he looks right after he steps out of the shower. And the next time you lay eyes on him, really zone in on a specific body part of his that you find erotic. Maybe it'll be his tight tush that always drove you mad or his strong arms that you longed to be held in. If you stay in that mind-set, where you're continually making an effort to see each other through early-stages eyes, it will stick with you throughout your marriage."