Sex Toys for Men, Women and Couples

But you don't need to become a born-again virgin to get your groove back. Because, believe it or not, just being married can launch your lust life into the stratosphere. "You're starting a new chapter in your relationship, which gives you the kind of rush -- physically and emotionally -- that you had when you began dating, says Sandor Gardos, Ph.D., staff sexologist at mypleasure.com. Add the trust factor of a lifelong commitment to the mix and you have a randy recipe that's so red-hot, even your swinging single friends will be jealous. To guarantee oh-God-yes! sex for years to come, add these tantalizing tips to your repertoire.

let loose
You and your guy have probably done your fair share of X-rated experimenting. But still, there may be some naughty things you haven't been brave enough to bring up yet. Well, getting married gives you a sense of security, which allows you to divulge your desires and be yourself without worrying that your guy will prickle at a bedroom suggestion. "And when you're this bonded," says Gardos, "you're less self-conscious and better able to be fully immersed in the moment.

Jody, 34, realized how coming clean can send your libidos into overdrive when she finally fessed up about her favorite sex toy. "Matt and I were together for three years before we got married, but I never brought out my vibrator because I was afraid he'd think I was trying to tell him that he sucked in bed, which was absolutely not true," Jody says. "But during the honeymoon, I figured, 'What the hell?' At first, he looked a little surprised, but he was game. Now we use it all the time, and our sex life is fantastic."

This is also a prime time in your relationship to start developing horny habits to last a lifetime. "You want to set the framework now, at the beginning of your marriage, to ensure hot sex down the road," says Gardos. So relish in your new-found naughty comfort zone by taking a no-holds-barred approach in the bedroom: Yell, moan, or scream at glass-shattering decibels. Tell him how you want him to touch you and where, and ask him to give you dirty directions too. You could discover brain-altering bedroom moves that spark both your frisky fuses.

break the rules
Some very misguided folks think that once a twosome gets hitched, their hands-all-over-each-other behavior should taper off. "Society expected married couples to be more serious and mature, and that expectation can have an effect on how newlyweds act toward each other," says Gardos. "But there is a thrill that comes from bucking expectations and acting like a brand-spanking-new duo ... Not husband and wife." Which is exactly the reason why you should kick convention on its big fat ass and maul each other like a couple of horny teenagers on prom night.

If you're out to dinner with friends and the urge to lay on some steamy PDAs strikes, give in. Or steal each other away for a short but oh-so-sweet interlude in the loo. Michelle, 26, discovered hot titillating being bad is when she and her hubby had a stealthy sack session during a Sunday afternoon party at their place. "Kevin and I sneaked into the bedroom and went at it," she reveals. "We kept telling each other we should get back to our guests, but we couldn't tear ourselves apart." The icing on their quickie cake: "When we reemerged flushed and sweaty, we could tell by the smirks on everyone's faces that they knew exactly what we had been up to," she says. "That made it even sexier."

But this gotta-have-it-now energy is about much more than flaunting how hot you are for each other. "It's good to reaffirm your commitment to keeping that spark alive," says Gardos. "And the more fun you have with it, the more you stir up your lust." Adds Aline Zoldbrod, Ph.D., a sex and marriage therapist in Boston and author of Sex Talk, "In that first year of marriage, you're cementing the relationship and becoming more of a 'we.' By keeping it playful, you create an inside joke, making you essentially partners in crime."