Let Her Set the Pace
When it comes to sex, most men think faster means hotter. Women? Not so much. "Evolution built in a system that keeps the sexual
brakes on longer for us," says Emily Nagoski, Ph.D.(c), a sexuality instructor at Indiana Univesity. Not to worry. Five tricks for
building a slow burn that builds to a raging bonfire.
#2 The Strip Tease
The Instinct It's showtime; you want to tear off her clothes with your teeth.
The Better Move Coax her clothes off. "Some women feel uneasy if they're naked too soon," says Sandor Gardos, Ph.D., a sex
therapist and founder of mypleasure.com. So pace yourself. Undo only her first two shirt buttons. Go beneath her clothes without
removing them. Unzip her jeans. Run your fingers under her bra straps. You're trying to hint at what's going to follow once the
clothes do come off. Aim for 4 minutes; any more and "she may think you don't want to see her naked," Gardos warns.
#5 The Reverse Thruster
The Instinct She's going wild and speaking in tongues, so you want to go faster, deeper, and harder.
The Better Move Try slow, shallow thrusts instead. "At the beginning, going slow and shallow will help the vaginal wall relax
and expand, allowing for deeper penetration," says Gardos. Don't think of intercourse as a race to the top; it's a measured, gradual
climb, so increase your intensity slowly, and only when her breathing and her body tell you she's ready. When you finally hit the summit
together, it will feel like Everest up there.
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