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My wife has had less desire for sex in the last couple of years. We saw on the Oprah Winfrey show this past week that forty million women a year lose their desire for sex. Her hormone levels were normal, but our doctor gave her some hormones to increase her sex drive. But there was no change. Shouldn't the extra hormones have increased her drive?


While I agree that many women experience a loss of desire, I seriously doubt it reaches 40 million a year. If that were the case, then it would leave no women with any desire within a few years!

In most cases, loss of desire occurs due to a drop in hormones. However, you state that your wife already had her hormones checked. Adding more hormones when the levels are already normal would not then make a difference. A similar situation occurs when men take testosterone despite normal levels in their blood. When you are maxed out, you are maxed out.

One thing you did not mention is whether your wife is menopausal. If so, in some cases, it can be helpful to supplement estrogen with androgens. It is often the loss of androgens, not estrogen, that causes loss of desire.

So, the answer to your question is: no, the hormones should not really be expected to increase her desire. You two may want to look at our libido page to learn about other causes of low sexual desire. Best of luck to both of you.

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