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I love giving oral sex to my boyfriend but I hate swallowing. I want to please
him but he says it feels better when I swallow. Why is that? Does it really
feel any different than when I spit? What should I do?
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Answer
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Many men find it highly arousing to see their partner swallow their ejaculate.
However, this is really more of an emotional desire than a physical one.
Where exactly the semen goes after it leaves your boyfriend's penis does not
impact his sensations.
For many men, it is much more about a feeling of acceptance by their
partner; it may feel like a form of rejection of him when you spit. On the
other hand, that does not mean that you should be engaging in behavior that
you don't enjoy. So what can you do to please your boyfriend without doing
something you hate? What many couples have compromised on is that the man
withdraws his penis prior to orgasm and ejaculates on his partner.
Alternatively, instead of spitting, you can let his semen slowly, sensuously,
drain out of your mouth. I guarantee he will like that.
No matter what you do, it is much more about attitude and context. There is
a tremendous difference between letting his ejaculate dribble out of your
smiling mouth, and jumping up to run to the bathroom to gargle!
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Best,
Dr. Sandor Gardos
MyPleasure provides up-to-date and useful sexual education materials in combination
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