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I am a 21-year-old female. I have never had an orgasm and it's frustrating to
me when I hear of the great pleasure it provides. Well, this weekend while
talking to one of my male friends about the problem, he said it's possible that
I have a "hood" over my clitoris. He says this "hood" is
like some skin covering the clitoris and therefore makes it difficult for the
clitoris to receive direct stimulation. Could this be true? And, if so, how do
I know that I have this? When I look at myself I look normal since I don't have
another female to compare myself to. Help!
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Yikes! I think your friend completely misunderstood something. I absolutely
guarantee that you do have a hood over your clitoris. Every woman does. It
helps protect the clitoris. It is supposed to be there! In fact, until a woman
is very aroused, direct touching of the clitoris can be quite painful. Until
that point, the hood will slide back and forth over the clitoris actually
increasing sensation. So not only should you not worry about this, the hood
makes it MORE likely that you will have an orgasm.
I wouldn't despair, however. As I have told many other women, you are probably able
to have an orgasm. The main reasons that women have difficulties with achieving orgasm
are linked to not knowing their anatomy and/or psychological interference (e.g., anxiety).
It may be a good idea for you to look at a sexual anatomy book to get a better understanding
of how the clitoris and clitoral hood appear. And, now that you know that the clitoral hood
can actually help you with experiencing an orgasm, you may want to explore whether or not
you feel anxious or are worried about it not happening. Making efforts to relax during sexual
arousal can actually help you reach orgasm. Good luck to you.
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Best,
Dr. Sandor Gardos
MyPleasure provides up-to-date and useful sexual education materials in combination
with a store that allows people to buy, try, and learn about new aspects of
sexuality. We believe everybody deserves a great sex life.
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