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My boyfriend is taking a drug that has the side effect of causing impotence.
I'm trying to read up on this to understand his problem more completely, but
I am unclear about whether this hinders his ability to become aroused and
feel strongly attracted to me or simply to hold the... uh... evidence of that.
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Your question is a highly perceptive one. All too often, women (and men)
confuse physical and emotional arousal. Sexual expression encompasses many
factors including desire, attraction, physical arousal, ability to orgasm,
fantasy, etc. These can all be impacted independently. Just because a man
is unable to have an erection does not necessarily mean that he is not
"turned on." What most medications do is simply inhibit the ability
for blood to remain in the penis at sufficient pressure for a man to maintain
an erection. That does not mean he is not attracted to you or is not turned
on. In fact, not having an erection doesn't even mean that he cannot enjoy
genital stimulation or even have an orgasm.
It is unfortunate that so many men adopt an attitude of "what's the point?"
when approaching erection difficulties. Sexuality encompasses so much -- only
a small part of which even requires an erection. He should speak to his doctor
about various ways of treating his erection difficulties; but even should that
not be possible, it needn't mean the loss of highly arousing, enjoyable sexual
activities in your lives.
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Best,
Dr. Sandor Gardos
MyPleasure provides up-to-date and useful sexual education materials in combination
with a store that allows people to buy, try, and learn about new aspects of
sexuality. We believe everybody deserves a great sex life.
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