Dildos are for penetration, pure and simple. They don't vibrate, move, dance or sing, they just fit well in the hand and in whatever orifice you choose to use. Imagine it: your perfect penis.
With a dildo, you can pick the style, size, shape, length, width, texture and color that appeals to your particular sense of whimsy. You can select a long, short, nubby, smooth, realistic, modern, black, white or purple dildo, a dildo with testicles attached, one with suction cups that allow the dildo to adhere to the surface of your choice, or a futuristic dildo with assorted bells, whistles and gewgaws.
Vibrators vibrate; dildos fill space, whether it be vaginal or anal. While lots of people enjoy the stimuli vibrators produce, many others enjoy the feeling of fullness a dildo provides, as well as the level of thrusting control they can experience with this stationary device.
A traditional dildo is shaped like a phallus, which means it vaguely resembles a penis. Some can be quite realistic, especially if they're made from silicone. Others look nothing like the male member. They come in all sizes, shapes, textures and colors, from the smallest insertable to the (laughably) huge twelve-inch dildo. However, they all have one thing in common: they were made for thrusting.
When considering a traditional dildo, think about what you want. Some people prefer the simple sleekness of a smooth jelly dong. Others enjoy a more realistic shape and texture. Some people like small traditional dildos and others like obscenely large ones. It's really up to you. You might try experimenting with different vegetables to determine what size works best for you. When you find a veggie that fits just right, hunt for a traditional dildo of approximate size and shape. If you're not comfortable with the vegetarian approach, you may have to let trial and error determine your acceptable girth. As for texture, stroke a few floor models if you're shopping live. Pick the material that appeals to you most. If you don't find it potentially erotic, it's a colossal waste of time.
Traditional dildos are available in a variety of different styles, most of which can be categorized into the following groups:
Some women prefer traditional dildos because using them seems more like traditional intercourse, but offer more control. In fact, some men have been known to become jealous of their partner's buddy -- why would any woman with an always-erect penis at her disposal want a big, messy man around the house? Never fear, guys. A traditional dildo can provide crashing orgasms, but it can't provide the intimacy and touch that you can..
Although some people aren't comfortable with the idea of anal play or penetration, an increasingly large number of people enjoy the intense stimulation afforded by the sensitive nerve endings found in the anus. Whether you enjoy light or deep penetration, slim or thick girth, smooth entry or lots of friction, remember to select a smooth, seamless toy for anal play, one with a flared or larger base. You don't want your toy to get lost in your rectum!
Three additional things are critical for safe anal play: communication, relaxation, and lots and lots of lubrication. Unlike a woman's vagina, the anal canal doesn't produce any sort of lubrication. The last thing you want to experience during anal play is the sharp, shooting pains that can accompany the insertion of a dry dildo. Take it slow, be gentle, and respect your partner's boundaries.
While many kinds of dildos can be used for anal play, you should always select one with a flared base so it doesn't slip in farther than you intend. The last thing you want to become is an emergency-room anecdote! For safest play, select a dildo that has been specifically designed for anal play.
Available in all sizes and shapes, anal dildos have a wide, flared base attached to a tapering shaft, which can vary in size and shape from a long, twisted phallus-shaped rod, to a short, stocky model that can be worn without restraint. Many people enjoy the sensation of fullness, similar to the sensation women experience during vaginal penetration. Other people employ a thrusting motion with their anal dildos. Whatever works. Just be gentle -- otherwise you risk anal fissures and a host of other complications.
These party toys are meant for two; a double dildo is nothing more than two realistic dildos joined at the base -- with a little extra wiggle room. Any hetero- or homosexual combination can make good use of a double dildo (or "double dong," as they're sometimes called): man and man, man and woman, and woman and woman. Usually not a great choice for newbies (these dildos can appear alarmingly large), double dildos can make a tasteful addition to the true connoisseur's treasure chest.
Non-vibrating beads and balls provide gentle, erotic stimulation vaginally or anally. Joined balls, often classified as "anal balls" (although you can use them vaginally, also), are inserted then slowly withdrawn for a delicious sensation. Loose balls, often called "Ben Wa Balls," are inserted into the vagina and then rolled around internally for a subtle sensation.
Some people really enjoy the subtle sensations produced by these types of toys. Others say that beads and balls don't do much for them. Either way, you'll experience a totally different sensation than you would with a vibrator or regular dildo, so be patient and keep an open mind. You might find a new favorite!
Legend has it that women in ancient Japan or China first inserted egg-shaped hollow balls carved from ivory, then spent hours gently rocking back and forth, eventually experiencing a subtle-yet-satisfying orgasm. Today, Ben Wa Balls are made from a variety of substances, including gold plating, silver, steel, plastic, Lucite and any combination thereof. Fancier models are packaged quite glamorously, and can make a fun gift for your lover.
Some women claim they wear them all day, experiencing clandestine fun at the office, the grocery store -- even on dates. Other women enjoy using them for partner sex, and say their male partners love encountering the smooth balls during penetration. However, some women say the toys are little more than useless, producing a sensation so slight, they may as well not be using the balls at all.
While many Ben Wa novices express alarm at the thought of inserting and removing the balls, it's relatively simple: just pop them in and squeeze them out. You may want to experiment with location; some people enjoy holding them lower in the vagina, while others try to position them directly behind their G-Spots. Just don't aim for the cervix -- while you're unlikely to have a problem with them slipping past your body's gateway to the uterus, you probably won't enjoy any kind of clanging sensation that close to your cervix, a region some women find particularly sensitive.
Anal beads are great for men and women who are beginners or experts at anal play. Constructed of soft or firm materials, these toys usually consist of five or six spheres connected by a piece of cord or flexible plastic. They're used by gently inserting the string, bead by bead, into the anus. Some people like to leave them there until they're ready to have an orgasm, whereupon they or their partner gently pull the beads out, intensifying their climax. Others enjoy the sensation created by inserting and removing the beads. Whichever you choose to experiment with, please remember the following:
If you've never experimented with anal play, beads might be a great way to start. Many people find them a less intimidating alternative to anal dildos or anal vibrators.
Strap-ons and harnesses are just what they sound like: a dildo attached to a harness or other strap-on device that one partner wears to penetrate another. These toys aren't just for lesbian couples; all kinds of twosomes can enjoy the power-shifting and role-playing that accompanies play with removable dildos. Women often get a thrill from penetrating their male partners, and men who have trouble achieving or maintaining an erection find strap-ons useful for pleasing their partners. Some men enjoy masturbating while penetrating their partners, some women use strap-ons to anally or vaginally penetrate their lovers. These toys enable all kinds of flexibility with sexual play -- we highly recommend that everyone experiment with a strap-on or harness once in his or her sexual life.
Harnesses and strap-ons can utilize regular dildos, but there are also ones specifically designed to work with a harness. Select any kind of unit that appeals to you, but make sure you get one with a flared base. Otherwise, your toy will slip right out of its holster. You should also keep size in mind; the harness usually cuts an inch or so off your dildo. Made from sturdy leather, flexible vinyl or elastic, strap-ons or harnesses come in three basic shapes:
Whichever type of harness or strap-on dildo you choose, remember to talk to your partner before you experiment. While it's a good idea to do so before any new kind of sex play, your partner may be particularly surprised if you come prancing into the bedroom with a dildo strapped to your thigh. Play it safe and make sure both parties are receptive to the idea.
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