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Sexy Writing Exercise

If you're thinking about writing an erotic story or love letter, but don't know where to start, try this exercise to get you started!

Fantasies Exercise
Give yourself two minutes to answer each of the following questions. When your time is up, stop, even if you haven't finished your sentence.

  • Write down an erotic fantasy about a sexual experience that you would have in a minute if it were offered to you, no questions asked. It should be something you would have no reservations or conditions about doing in real life.
  • Write down an erotic fantasy about a sexual experience that you would only have under certain conditions. You could give yourself up wholeheartedly under those conditions, but otherwise not at all.
  • Write down an erotic fantasy about a sexual experience that is completely satisfying to you in your imagination but that you could not do because it is either physically impossible or something you could never bring yourself to do in real life... Yet in your mind, it is completely hot and fulfilling
Now you have three potential pieces of fiction, based on your fantasies. Take another sheet of paper and answer the following:
  • What do you notice about the differences, or similarities, between your three fantasies?
  • Have you ever confided any of these fantasies to anyone?
  • Is any one of your three fantasies more compelling than another, sexually or creatively?

Goal
  • To articulate thoughts that are often unspoken and unwritten.
  • To pay intimate attention to your erotic unconscious.
  • To identify the elements in your erotic "stories" that both propel and inhibit you.

After You Finish This Exercise, You'll Never Believe Again...
  • That your fantasy life is barren.
  • That fantasies can only be satisfied by acting them out.
  • That fantasies are not enhanced by conflicts, taboos and inhibitions. (Like literature, they thrive on all those things!)
Excerpted with permission from How to Write a Dirty Story: Reading, Writing and Publishing Erotica
© 2001, 2002 by Susie Bright



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