by Jocelyn Saurini
Before you introduce sensual games into your bedroom, make sure you have a
game plan. We suggest following these three steps:
Step One: Agree on the Rules
Before you play anything, make sure you and your partner agree on the rules
of the game. While it's nice to surprise your lover with a game to liven
things up, it's even better to show your lover that you respect them enough
to sit down with them before playing and make sure the game is going to be
enticing for both of you, not exciting for one of you and awkward for the
other. For example, if your partner is uncomfortable with certain sexual
acts, one of the rules should be that no prize or part of the game would
involve doing that act. Sit down and write out a document that outlines what
you each can and cannot do, and stick to it.
Step Two: Pick Your Prizes
Most lover's games involve assigning sexual acts as the prizes. Not
everything has to involve intercourse, oral sex or getting naked; pick
different sexual acts for different results in the game. Making some softer
suggestions, such as giving a shoulder rub, washing each other's hair, doing
a sensual dance or feeding each other, will mix things up and make your
games more fun. Before you even start, you should take some time to
brainstorm all the things, large and small, wild, relaxing and softly
sensual, that you'd like your partner to do to you, and make a nice, long
list.
Step Three: Play a Game!
Buy a
lover's board game,
play a homemade sensual game, or put an
erotic twist on a standard game ... it's entirely up to you. We do suggest
that you start with simple games and work your way up to the trickier, more
time-consuming games. If you find that you and your partner don't enjoy
sensual games (not everyone does), then you won't want to have wasted a ton
of dough on games you don't want.
Remember, winning isn't everything! The best part about incorporating sexual
games into your life is that both you and your partner win every time you
play! Not only do sexual games open up communication between partners, but
they also make it easy to try new things, experiment with your likes and
dislikes, and ensure your sex life never becomes routine. Dust off the card
deck, get your imagination to work and set one night a week aside for game
night!
