No, those aren't the contents of a witch's cauldron! They're body ointments that
excel at making your lovemaking and erotic evenings sexy, sensual and romantic.
Of course, if you don't know how to use them, they can also make your sheets
sticky, your hands oily and your head achy and overwhelmed by heavy scents.
We've learned this lesson the hard way; we've tried out
numerous massage oils, arousal balms and edible oils -- and every other possible
chemical and natural formula that can be rubbed on a person's body.
Our testing will hopefully benefit you as we share the lessons we've learned over
the years. Here's a handy "How To" guide on all things slippery and
How To Use
first thing to know about massage oils is--despite what you might think--lighter
is better, for two reasons. Foremost, you'll be slathering the massage oil all
over one another's bodies; the last thing you want is a sticky coat you can
scrape off with your nails. But also, lighter oils have lighter scents, which
means neither of you will swoon from the heady perfumes some manufacturers
infuse their oils with. I know, you're thinking that more scent is a good thing,
but after you've poured half a bottle of massage oil on your lover, the scent
of lavender can get a little overwhelming. Nobody wants to develop head pains
Here are a few hints on using massage oils:
A Note on
Typically, a warming oil
is cool when applied to the skin, and then warms either
with the touch of a hand rubbing it or somebody blowing on it. We think these
ointments are great for foreplay: massage them into the inner thighs or inside
knees and then gently blowing on the oil--instant heat! A word of warning,
though: for some reason, warming oils tend to have heavier scents than their
How (and Why) To Use
are, in our opinion, the most underrated and overlooked products of
all the body play options. Oils, balms and other liquids can create heated,
sensual encounters; body dusts are a nice change of pace. They also travel better
than their oil-based cousins, reducing the risk of spilling a heavily scented
oil all through your travel bag. A body dust is a light powder that you sprinkle
on and then rub into your lover's skin.
Generally, body dusts are infused with erotic scents like honey or berry, and
while they don't create any slippery friction, they'll leave your lover's body
extremely smooth for a unique feel during lovemaking. Most body dusts also
come with a feather tickler of some sort to use when applying the dust to your
partner's skin. If your dust doesn't come with one, we really recommend
picking one up. Not only will your lover enjoy the feeling of the feather
on his or her skin, but it will keep the dust from clumping or getting all
over the room.
How To Use
aren't really meant for full body massage; they're intended for
concentrated use on sensitive parts of the body, such as the
inner thighs and other erogenous zones. Most are flavored with an infusion
mint or other
Typically, one person puts a small amount on his or her finger, and then rubs it into the skin of the desired spot, further stimulating that area with their mouth or fingers. The arousal balm will tingle when first applied, and then often acts like a warming oil as it is stimulated, changing from a tingling sensation to a warming sensation -- though some people experience a tingling sensation for longer.
If your lover (male or female) has sensitive nipples, arousal balms can take
nipple play to a new level. We recommend starting slowly with a small amount of
whatever arousal gel you're using, until you figure out exactly how powerful the
effect on your partner is! Some people are more sensitive than others, and a
small amount can send them reeling with sensation. While that might be a good
thing sometimes, you don't want your lover to get woozy!
How To Use Body Paints
People rave about the joys of using body paints for erotic play--and we're no different. Again, make sure you're not using sheets that you want to keep clean forever! While many body paints are water soluble, some are not so easy to get out of your linens. A few other pointers:
Chocolate, Chocolate, Chocolate
(and Other Sweets)
It may be messy, it may be sticky and it may give you a toothache later, but the occasional romp in mother nature's favorite candy is a welcome addition to any sexual repertoire. Here are some helpful hints when playing with chocolate:
Finally, whichever sticky solution you and your lover decide to rub all over each
other, make sure you talk about it before you pour it on. While there's a lot to
be said for spontaneity, some people really don't like being slathered with
substances. You'll do better if you determine which category your partner falls
into before you haul out the "old" sheets!
Strawberry Nipple Nibblers
Apply to your nipples and "other parts" to surprise him.
All edible treats
Kama Sutra Honey Dust
An tasty all-over body powder with applicator.
All Kama Sutra items
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