Getting a Leg Up
So many times, people rush to give attention to the obvious erogenous zones without first
heightening passion in
other ways. The next time you’re with your partner, we suggest you give some special attention to their legs. Work
from the bottom to the top, lingering at each location. Kiss the backs of their ankles. Tickle their calves. Blow
on the backs of their knees. Then stroke and massage their inner and outer thighs using a mix of light and heavy
strokes. This last part of your "journey" will not only create exquisite sexual tension between you, it will also
physically prep your partner for an amazing orgasm by bringing extra blood flow to their genitals.
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A Nimble Nibble
Ever wonder how to use your teeth during love play without harming the object of your desire? (After all,
the human bite can do some damage!) The first rule of thumb is start slowly and be gentle. Communicate with
your partner as you go to establish what feels right. You might begin by simply grazing parts of your lover’s
body as you kiss them, using the edges of your teeth almost like fingernails, lightly tickling shoulders,
arms, hands. Or suck each one of your lover’s fingers,
softly applying the pressure of your teeth as you remove them from your mouth. If they enjoyed this technique,
try lightly biting the back of their neck or other body parts during a session of passionate necking. Their
reaction will likely tell you right away whether it’s something that they enjoy and if it’s safe to apply more
pressure. But remember, in the heat of the moment it’s easy to get worked up. When you’re using your teeth
there’s a fine line between inflaming your lover’s passion and inflicting pain. Be careful!
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A Smooth Touch
If you want to add more sensuality to your love play -- and to your daily life -- have your partner
rub you down with your
favorite lotion after your morning shower or at the end of the day before going to bed. In the
five or ten minutes it will take to cover you from head to foot, you’ll both benefit from the touch of one
another’s skin, the feel and smell of the lotion, and the whole experience of being close. Then next time,
you can do the honors. This allows your lover to feel the warmth of your touch and have you explore every
inch of their body (not just tried and true erogenous zones). In the short time it takes to complete this
sensual ritual, you’ll not only take care of your bodies and ease daily tension, but most importantly,
you’ll enjoy reconnecting as a couple.
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Game Night
If your house is like most, then you’ve got games stacked in a closet somewhere that rarely get used.
It might be an old board game, a word game, or a trivia game. Whatever you have around, take it out
some night when your lover is with you and challenge them to a game.
They might not be very excited until you tell about the sexy stakes. Maybe you play a game where
spelling out naughty words is encouraged and the winner gets to have the loser as their love slave
for a night. A match might require you to shed a piece of clothing for each missed answer. The rules
you choose can be your own. What's important is that you make the night playful and passionate using
what you've already got around. Anyone up for naked Twister?
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Let the Games Begin
It's long been known -- at least among so-called sports widows and the occasional sports widower --
that your significant other's sports season of choice can put a damper on your
sex life. "Baby, just
let me watch the game." Sound familiar? If so, the next time your lover's team comes on TV, make him
a deal. You'll watch the game together, each picking a team and "betting" for sexual favors. For basketball
fans, the next two points your team scores might get you a kiss on the neck. A three-point shot could
earn your lover a sensual massage during the commercial break. For you football fans, your team's touchdown
might be good for oral favors. Whatever rules you make up together, by the game's end, I doubt you'll end
up watching television!
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Carnal Card Play
You don't necessarily need fancy games to spice things up! Take a regular deck of cards and
simply assign naughty deeds to be done to each number. For example: A number seven card, no
matter the suit, stands for an ear nibble; a nine may mean slow dancing ... naked; and face
cards are wild. The point is, you and your lover make it the perfect sexy game for the both of
you. Just shuffle the deck and pick a card for a night of sensual fun!
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Dream On!
Don't forget to exercise the most important erotic muscle your have: your mind. Letting
yourself fantasize throughout the day about sexy scenes and sensual acts builds your
anticipation and creativity. This is a surefire way to make sex that much more satisfying
when you finally get to indulge, whether you have a lovemaking session with a partner or
a solo session with the star of your fantasies!
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Spice It Up
Don't believe in the power of aphrodisiacs? Does the thought of oysters upping libido or
chocolate being a substitute for sex make you want to laugh? Then perhaps you should try
the more down-to-earth effects of everyday spices! Garlic is known for its circulation-boosting
properties, so try adding some to your next meal to increase blood flow to special places. Not
in the mood for garlic? Try ginger. It's a great taste enhancer (a very important one of your
five senses) and causes a warm, tingly sensation when ingested, giving you a head start on
other warm, tingly feelings!
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31 Flavors
There are so many delectable flavors of lubricant
and edible body products
now available, why settle for just one? Some night when you want to give your lover a special treat, dab
different flavors of lubricant
strategically over your different erogenous zones and have your sweetie taste your skin to discover them
one by one. It will be a delicious adventure for both of you!
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Pre-Play Foreplay
Why wait to be in your partner's arms to initiate a sexual romp?
Let the foreplay begin on your drive home. Call your lover and start telling a hot story
filled with sensual and sexy details about how you felt all day thinking about having a
passionate, steamy encounter with them. Above all, express that you can hardly wait to see
and touch them. It will get your partner excited before you ever lay eyes on them. Inquire
about the clothing your partner is wearing; you might even ask for all clothing to be removed
by the time you get home! After all, what are cell phones for, if not to initiate important
appointments? Use yours to indulge in some pre-foreplay and you'll make a sexy night together
last even longer.
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Shower Your Senses
Showering before sex doesn't just get you clean; it prepares your
body for ecstasy. Showering warms and loosens muscles (great for flexibility), clears your
nasal passages, thereby enhancing your sense of smell (think pheromones), and increases your
circulation so that your body is more receptive to touch. (Good blood flow is a key to sexual
responsiveness.) Want to make your pre-sex shower even more satisfying? Make it part of foreplay.
Invite your partner to bathe with you and rub one another down with a sensual bath oil or
aromatic bath gel.
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Make Foreplay a Breeze
Believe it or not, even air can be used as an erotic tool--a particularly
enticing one during hot summer nights. Have your lover strip down to their
birthday suit and lie flat on the bed with their eyes closed. (You might
even want to blindfold them.) Then, use your breath or a small, handheld
fan to blow on them gently, moving from erogenous zone to erogenous zone.
Soon enough, they're likely to be begging for your touch.
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Savor Sweet Sensations
Consider the erotic possibilities of produce. Fruit is delicious and sensual, whether you and
your partner share an erotic snack, place a morsel in your mouths to sweeten a kiss, or lightly
rub juicy pieces over one another’s bodies to lick off. Try feeding your lover a succulent strawberry
or a ripe piece of mango at the end of a romantic dinner and see where it leads!
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Undressed and Impressed
Try a new twist on an old favorite: Perform a unique striptease dance for your lover. First,
impose a strict look-but-don’t-touch rule. (Using soft wrist restraints
on your partner will help.) Then, as you disrobe, erotically remove articles of clothing from
them, as well. Do this until you are both naked and ready for more action. You may or may not
want to remove their restraints!
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Mix Up Your Massages
Massage is a wonderful, intimate way to be romantic with your partner, but even massages can become routine. So mix it up!
One time touch your partner using only soft, feather-light strokes over every inch of their body. Another time, use different,
oiled parts of your body -- like your forearms, chest, and thighs -- to caress and rub your partner. You can even make massage
a game, choosing the strokes and body parts, and different massage oils.
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Get in the Zone
First, ask your partner to pick a favorite
non-genital erogenous zone on their body (nape of neck, back of knee, earlobes,
hands, tummy, etc.). Then, for the next 24 hours, lavish special attention on that
one spot or zone. Try caressing it, kissing it, blowing on it, rubbing ice on it --
get creative! The goal is to see just how heated up you can make each other
throughout the day. This will lead to some really intense sex by evening.
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Sexy Scavenger Hunt
On your next big date night with your partner, tantalize them with
a playful adult scavenger hunt! Hide your sex toys and other racy treats around the house and
give your lover clues on where to find them. To add some fun to the game, you might want to
shed a piece of clothing each time they find something you’ve hidden. But let them know they
can’t get their real prize until they’ve found the very last one. As for what that prize is,
we'll leave that to your imagination!
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Daring Strip Poker
If you’re in a frisky mood, try playing a game of strip poker (or rummy or gin)
with your partner. When you’ve both lost all of your clothes, dare each other to
do silly tricks in the buff. For instance, you could dare your naked partner to
do a headstand, cartwheel or jumping jacks, or attempt to give you an erotic
belly or hula dance. You’re both sure to have a good laugh. Laughing with each
other while naked can help boost your body confidence and is a great erotic mood
enhancer. Try getting naked together with
Poker for
Lovers.
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X Marks the Spot
The next time you and your lover are together, each take a piece of paper and
draw a picture or outline of your body on it (even if it’s a stick figure!).
Then, mark an X on every spot you want your lover to touch, lick or kiss. When
you’re both done, trade papers. Now you have an erotic treasure map that you
can use to explore your partner’s body.
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Heighten Your Senses
Expanding the range of sensations that you’re open to can really heighten
what you experience during sex. One way you and your partner can experiment
with this idea is by taking turns blindfolding
one another and having each
other taste a number of different foods. Choose a range of foods that are
very different. Some should be salty, some should be sweet and some should
even be bitter. Tasting one food after another without knowing what to
expect will make each flavor more intense. If you and your partner like
this experience, you can also try it using different scents (like
peppermint, lemon and floral scents) or sounds (from beating drums to
the sound of your breath in their ear).
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Be Daring and Delicious
Surprise your lover by placing a drop of
flavored oil, gel or nipple balm somewhere on
your body that you know your lover will lick during foreplay. Once the action starts,
watch your lover’s face as they taste this unexpected treat. Chances are, they’ll soon
be searching your body for more!
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Erotic Produce
Fruit is delicious and sensual, whether sharing an erotic snack,
rubbing it lightly over your lover's body or licking the juice off of select body parts. Try
freezing some grapes and using them like an ice cube (just be sure not to choke on them!).
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Chill 'em Out
Run an ice cube over your lover's body while it
melts before sex! They'll get the chills, and then you can warm them up.
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