Leave Your Mark
Hereís a tip for all you lovers out there, whether youíre a man or a woman. Before your next
romantic night in with your partner, go to a drugstore and purchase a cheap red lipstick. Then,
after youíve spent a passionate night together and youíre getting ready the next morning, leave
a sweet or sexy note written in lipstick
on the bathroom mirror. When your lover gets up to shower, theyíll make the happy discovery of
your message to them. Itís a sexy, inexpensive and unexpected way to declare your love -- or to tell
your partner what a sexual superstar they are!
They're Playing Our Song
When a couple gets married, they traditionally select a song that represents their love for one another to
play for the first dance at their wedding. Try
taking that tradition one step further -- whether you and your lover are married or not. Pick out a special
song that for the two of you means S-E-X. You can play it for one another as a signal that youíre in the mood
for love or simply share a secret smile when it plays somewhere when youíre out together. It will be a great
reminder of special, hot times you share.
Sexy, Secret Seclusion
In this busy world we live in, it can be hard for a couple to find time to indulge themselves by enjoying
time together. We want to change that! This tip requires some advance planning, but we think you'll find
it well worth the effort. Pick a weekend, or even a couple days of the week, that you want to spend all
alone with your partner. Then, tell all the people in your lives that you're headed out of town, but don't
go anywhere. The week before youíre scheduled to "leave," stock up on your favorite foods (or order in),
make sure you've got movies to watch (or not watch!), and of course have all kinds of
lubricants, toys and
games on hand for frisky fun. Then when the time comes, you'll have nowhere you need to go, and no one you
have to see. You can simply be with your partner and spend the time lovin' and lounging. We think you'll have
so much fun that this might become an annual "vacation"!
Nothing Up Your Sleeve
Forget strip poker. Someday, when your lover isnít home, hide playing cards around the house in tough-to-find places.
Then let them know that every time they discover one of the hidden cards, youíll grant them a sexual wish. Different
cards can even have special designations. You decide the naughty meaning behind each one. But be aware, when you first
tell your lover about this new treat, it might become a hurried game of Hide and Seek! However, if you
hide your cards well enough, your lover may
still be finding them months down the road. And thatís a lot of good loviní.
Watching the film is one good reason to sit in a darkened theatre, but it certainly isnít the only one!
Kissing and cuddling with someone youíre sweet on is definitely another. The next time you head to the
multiplex, we suggest you put the movie make-out session back into your romantic repertoire. What kinds
of movies are good for making out? All kinds. Pick a thriller if you want to be able to clutch onto your
partner during suspense scenes. Choose a love story with a sweeping soundtrack if youíre looking for some
added romantic ambiance. And if you really want things to get hot and heavy, go to a matinee of a movie
thatís been out for a while. You might have the whole theatre to yourselves!
So you want to do something special ... Your partner is leaving town and you want to be
remembered. You could write a note or put a picture of yourself in your partnerís wallet,
but why not be more creative? It might take some preparation, but it will definitely be a
memorable surprise. Record your orgasm--yes, you heard us! Your partner wonít expect it,
but imagine the exciting surprise when the tape is found. First, get a small tape recorder,
and when you have some time to yourself, hit "Record" and start telling your partner where
you are touching yourself, or simply record the sound of your heavy breathing as you explore
your body. Donít be shy; record yourself moaning and calling your partnerís name. Once your
"moaning masterpiece" is complete, slide the tape and the tape recorder into a large manila
envelope marked: *Private: Listen when alone*. Be sure this title is clearly visible for your
partner to see but that the envelope is not reachable enough to be pulled out in a business
meeting. Then, when your lover is alone, they'll be able to listen to your sexy moaning. Who
would ever forget such a pleasurable sound!
Create a Passion Zone
Feeling uninspired when it comes to sex? Maybe it's your surroundings! If your bedroom is
currently cluttered with bills, work papers, maybe even your dear old stuffed animals, it's
time to clean up and turn on... your libido, that is! Make this once-sensual haven
sex-appropriate again by moving the laptop out and
erotic toys in.
Bring some richly scented candles to the nightstand, as well as a
selection of favorite
lubes, condoms, massage oils, and the like. Change the lighting to something softer and sultrier.
Most importantly, create a nest you and a lover will never want to leave by appointing your bed
with luxurious linens in a mix of sumptuous fabrics. It's guaranteed you'll feel sexier when surrounded
by sexy things!
The Great Indoors
Who says you have to travel deep into the woods and go camping to share a sleeping bag
with your lover? Plan a great escape in your very own home for the night! Place pillows,
blankets, and sleeping bags on the living room floor (or an air mattress if you don't want
to totally rough it). Then get ready to cuddle. Make a fire if you have a fireplace. Eat
marshmallows and fun camping snacks. Open a bottle of wine. Tell scary stories or read to
one another. (No fair turning on the TV; thereís no cable in the woods!) When you're ready
to go to "sleep," zip your sleeping bags together or simply slip into one together--naked--and
leave the rest to your imagination. You might find that indoor camping is as much fun as
outdoor camping, only a whole lot warmer.
Forget the Quickie
While there's nothing wrong with an impromptu, frenzied sex session, why not set aside
time for romance? Plan a veritable Sexapalooza of lovemaking with your partner -- complete
with sensual itinerary. It could include
your favorite games, edible treats, adult toys, etc. Choose a special day in advance with
your lover and be sure to have everything you need on hand, such as
condoms, so no
one has to leave the bedroom unless it's absolutely necessary. Then load up the CD player
with mood music and let the sexcapade begin!
Delightful (Dirty) Dancing
Ah, dancing ... It's not just a fun pastime and good exercise. Itís also the kind of
date-night activity that can naturally lead into a night of lust. Whether you and your
lover organize an evening out at a nightclub or a private "club night" at home, dancing
will allow the two of you to get close--and get freaky--outside of the bedroom. Listen to
the music and feel the beat. Take advantage of each dance to touch, feel, and kiss your
partnerís body. Be sensual. Tickle their ear with hot breath and whisper what you would
do to them if you were in bed together. No need to have fancy moves or be a pro on the
dance floor, just enjoy the moment with your partner. Itís all about how you two feel
together and the anticipation of being alone together after a sweaty evening filled with
Let's Do Lunch
Many of us have heard about the "long lunch" as the perfect time for a sexual tryst, but how many people
have actually tried it? Don't wait any longer! Add some spice to your sex life by organizing a secret
rendezvous with your partner during the noontime hour. Pick a day when your afternoon schedules are
completely free of meetings, just in case a long lunch turns into an even longer evening. You can meet
your lover in a hotel, at home, or between your offices. Heck, if nothing else, go park your car someplace
and simply make out like lovers who havenít seen each other in a month. Donít mention anything to anyone.
No conversation is needed, unless, of course, itís to express your desires.
Sensualize the Bath
Sex up your bathroom with a few erotic accessories that are inviting to both you and a potential
playmate. If you have tons of counter space or open shelves, fill 'em up with candles. Keep
scented bath oils and waterproof toys close at hand as well as
silicone lubricant in a shatterproof
bottle (just don't use silicone lubricant with silicone toys!) to take full advantage of the sensual
joys of bathing. Also, be sure you have a private place to store all of these items should you have
children or guests around!
Baths are much more than just a way to get clean! They can also be a sexy way to reconnect with
your partner. Taking the time to bathe each other and wash one anotherís hair can be a fantastic
sensual delight. Make the most of this experience by setting the mood with candles, using aromatic
bath oils or even trying edible soap. You can also make things a little racier by adding a waterproof sex toy to your fun.
Use Sheet Signals
Want to make sure your romantic signals donít get crossed? Buy a set of
"special" sheets (or even just pillow cases) that you or your partner can
put on the bed to silently request a romantic rendezvous. The linens might be a racy
color, a sexy material like satin, or even plain old flannel. What theyíre made of
doesnít matter -- itís the message they send that counts!
Prepare an aphrodisiac dinner for two wearing nothing but an apron and a smile.
Many foods have been thought to be aphrodisiacs, including oysters, pine nuts,
peaches, grapes, walnuts -- even asparagus! But even more important than the
ingredients you use is that you make the meal light and delicious and use foods
that stir the senses by evoking arousing smells, tastes and textures. Set the
mood by playing sensual background music and placing candles in every room, and
end the evening with an intimate romp on the table or in the kitchen.
Buy some beautiful stationery, spray it with your favorite cologne or perfume
and create an invitation for a romantic date or trip for you and your lover.
Include the time, date, what to wear and where to meet, but keep the romantic
event a surprise. Address the envelope to your lover and drop it in the mail.
In this era of e-mails, IMs and cell phones, the invitation will be a very
special and romantic surprise followed by an equally surprising, romantic
Burn a Romantic CD
Remember mix tapes? To get you both in
the mood, make a mix CD of your favorite sexy songs. It doesn't matter
what the songs are, as long as they make you feel sexy when you hear
them. If your sweetie doesn't share your musical taste, listen to it
ahead of time to get yourself going.
Don't forget simple, sensual pleasures. Something as subtle as brushing your
partner's hair (with a brush or your fingers) can feel wonderful for both of
When most people give their partner a massage, they act like
they are trying to work a cramp out of a football player's leg. For a much
more sensual (and sexy) approach, try the opposite: see how lightly you can
run your hands over their body while still making contact. You can even try
brushing your fingers slightly above the skin, tickling only the hair (if
they have any). Ooooo.
It's not just for kids anymore. Try taking a warm, sensuous bath with your partner or
yourself. Use aromatic oils and scented bubble bath. Feel your body relax and your
sexual spirit soar.
Speak and Spell
Next time you are giving your partner a back rub, try
spelling out a secret message with your finger and see if he or she can
guess what you wrote. Take turns and see who gets more right. What the
winner gets is up to you! :)
The Forgotten Erogenous Zone!
Start out your foreplay by washing
your partner's feet and then massaging them with a peppermint lotion. Then work up
to kissing and licking their feet. By then, theyíll be worked up for other